Thanks Kyle,
The IP address is the mail server that Smartermail is on (the same IP as the web server), as the emails are sent from a trigger and sent to all the people who have asked to be notified of a post.
I've looked at throttling and that throttles the emails that are sent out but not the connections, which is what's blocking us.
So the throttling offers: "messages / hour", "bandwidth / hour", "bounces / hour"
The IDS rule that's being triggered is the DOS rule which is based on "connections before block"
Unless i'm misunderstanding this?
Or is "messages / hour" the same as "connections" ?
PS. Just found this in your help documentation "It is recommended that you whitelist any trusted IP addresses that may send out large mailing lists or make many connections if you enable this option."