Hi Robbie. I think the best thing to do in this case would be to turn the backup MX server into a gateway. All mail that is destined for your primary server that's coming via your backup MX should just be passed along with no action taken on spam. As your primary server needs to scan all messages from your backup MX, you cannot whitelist the backup MX server. You need to treat it like any other external server. The one problem that you may face is that your primary mail server may see all messages coming from the backup MX IP address, which defeats the purpose of using RBLs. If this is the case, something like Declude can help because it can be configured to hop over your backup MX IP and see the original sending IP. Declude is free of charge and you can get it here: http://mailsbestfriend.com/downloads.Please let me know if you have any questions. Thanks.
Linda Pagillo
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